Sexless Marriages are a Indicator of Man of The House Syndrome

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Times a year is a sexless marriage 👉 15–20% of married couples fall into this category.
📉 You’re not alone—but you’re also not okay.

45%

of men in sexless marriages report feeling rejected and ashamed

💔 It’s not about the sex. It’s about being unwanted in your own home.

70%

of couples in sexless marriages say they avoid physical contact altogether

🧊 No touch. No warmth. Just silence and small talk.

in 3 men in sexless marriages admit to fantasizing about leaving—but feel guilty doing so

⛓️ You’re trapped between loyalty and loneliness.

Were You The Man of The House as Child?

Why do I feel responsible for everyone’s emotions… but never express my own?
Why do I say “sorry” even when I’m the one who’s hurting?
Why do I feel like the relationship flipped—like she’s the parent and I’m the child?
Why do I avoid conflict, even when I know it’s making things worse?
Why do I keep doing the work… but still feel like a failure in my own home?
Why do I feel more like a therapist than a partner?
Why do I try to be nice… and still feel invisible?
Why do I feel ashamed of wanting more—from her, from myself, from life?

If these questions hit too close to home, it’s not a coincidence.
Watch the video below. Let me explain what no one told you—but you’ve felt your entire life.

More Importantly Let Me Show You The Way Out

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The "Man of The House" Syndrome

Six Signs You We're Made into The Man of The House

Chronic Apologizer

You say “sorry” even when you’re not sure what you did.
You’ve confused being liked with being respected.

Sexless, Powerless

You feel like a roommate, not a partner.
You show up with love—but you don’t feel wanted.

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Emotional Caretaker

You feel responsible for her moods—and maybe even your mother’s growing up.
You check in constantly, but no one checks in on you.

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Insight Addict

You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts…
But nothing’s changed—because you haven’t.

Conflict Avoider

You avoid hard conversations to “keep the peace.”
But deep down, resentment is building.

Directionless Nice Guy

You’re kind, supportive, and dependable.
And somehow… none of that makes you feel like a man.

The Initiation Program
For Men Who Are Ready to Initiate Change

Why This Exists

I’ve worked with men as a therapist and as a coach.
I’ve seen what happens when the Man of The House script runs too long:
✖️ She stops respecting you.
✖️ You keep apologizing for things you haven’t fixed.
✖️ You have to beg and plead for sexual intimacy and if you do get it, it is scraps.

Therapy can help you name the pain—but it rarely gives you the masculine confrontation you actually need.
This work is different. It’s not about comfort. It’s about truth, action, and accountability.

Who This is For

This coaching is for men who:

May have read No More Mr. Nice Guy (and felt exposed)

Know what the problem is but can’t seem to do anything about it

Are in a relationship that’s hanging by a thread—or already lost it

Are secretly furious with themselves for never standing up

Are ready to be told the truth—even if it stings

Not therapy. Not life coaching. This is Initiation.

What It Looks Like

Weekly 1-on-1 coaching via Zoom
No coddling, no fluff—just clarity and next steps
You will be called out when you’re lying (to me or yourself)
You will change how you speak, act, dress, and carry yourself
You’ll stop chasing her validation and start building self-respect
You will have one person in your corner who sees the man you could be

Pricing & Commitment

$175/session

Weekly or biweekly

This isn’t a quick fix. This is personal transformation.

If you're not serious, don’t apply.

Financial Assistance Available for Highly Motivated Applicants Through August 30th

The Bitter Truth

You were raised to believe that being good, helpful, and emotionally available would earn you love.
But no one told you that being useful isn’t the same as being respected.

You’ve spent your life making sure everyone else feels okay—while slowly forgetting who you are.
You’ve said sorry more times than you can count, and still nothing has changed.

She loves you. Maybe. But she doesn’t look at you with fire anymore.

That’s not because something’s wrong with you.
It’s because you were trained to be safe instead of solid.

And the bitter truth is: no one is coming to untrain you—except you.

That doesn't mean you can't have help.

This isn't a death sentence-it is an invitation.

About Me

My name is Derrick Hoard

My name is Derrick Hoard. I’m a licensed marriage and family therapist, a survivor of divorce, and a man who clawed his way out of Man of the House Syndrome.

Ironically, it wasn’t my professional training that broke me free. It was the end of my 7-year marriage.

I was very much like you.

I grew up believing my only value came from what I could do for women—how well I could anticipate their needs, make them happy, and never burden them with my own. I lived to be accepted, to be chosen, to be “good.”

In my private practice, I saw the same story over and over again—through men, women in relationships with men, and entire couples:

Men who were raised to be emotionally responsible for their mothers.
The boy who became “the man of the house” too early often grows up to become the child in his own relationship.

Therapy helped people process pain. But as a therapist, I was limited. I couldn’t always say what needed to be said. I couldn’t give direction, call bullshit, or tell a man flat-out:

“You’re apologizing for things you haven’t changed.”

That’s why I created The Initiation.

You have to apply to work with me because I don’t want to waste either of our time.

Some men read about Man of The House Syndrome and use it as a label—an excuse to keep doing the same thing.

But others?

They’re ready. They feel the urgency. They know they need something sharper than soft therapy language. They want real change—for themselves, and so that their apologies actually mean something.

This isn’t about getting your partner back.

It’s about becoming the kind of man who never loses himself again.

Whether she falls in love with you again or not—

You will become the man who commands respect.

Feeling Seen? Ready to Be Heard and Helped?

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I know what it’s like to feel like you’re too far gone, too stuck, or too tired to try again.

You’re not.

If you’re here—reading this—it means you still want to become something more.

And that’s all we need to begin.

Consultation (We'll Talk)

You’ll schedule a 15-minute call where we’ll see if this is the right fit. This isn’t a sales pitch—it’s a mutual check-in.

Confirmation (If it's Right You'll Know)

If you’re accepted, I’ll offer you a scholarship or paid slot depending on what’s available. You’ll also get clear next steps.

Interview (Tell the Truth)

Answer a few real questions about where you are, what’s not working, and what you’re ready to change. No fluff. Just honesty.

Initiation (Where it Begins)

You’ll step into the work. Not as a client, but as a man ready to become someone he can respect again.

Schedule Your Consultation Now

If you're ready to begin the process, click below to schedule a consultation. In this free call I will ask you questions about your situation, give you a chance to ask me some and discover whether or not this program is right for you. You can find many people offering counseling and coaching but very few who know exactly what you're going through. I do because I have been there.

You're not too late. You're here. Let's Begin.

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