Removing Barriers to
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Keep It Short and Straighforward!
When Everything Changed
OVERNIGHT
My name is Derrick, and I am a licensed marriage and family therapist. I help men who are victims of sudden and unexpected divorce ground themselves and create a plan not just to survive, but to come out on the other side better than they were before.
You are walking a path that millions of good and faithful husbands have walked, who suddenly find themselves on the receiving end of a divorce request. Many of them have been forced by society to walk it alone.
As both a licensed marriage therapist and divorce survivor, I have both personal and professional knowledge on the dynamics that have led to this moment.
You're probably cycling through shock, confusion, and anger right now. Maybe you're replaying every conversation from the past year, searching for the signs you missed.
You might be tempted to text her, call her, show up with flowers, or write a letter explaining how you'll change.
PLEASE DON'T
The next 30 to 90 days will determine whether you emerge from this stronger or broken. The decisions you make right now, in your most vulnerable state, will either set you up for growth or keep you trapped in a cycle of regret and bitterness.
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I've seen men make the same mistakes over and over: begging her to reconsider, making rash financial decisions, immediately jumping into the dating pool, or worst of all, falling down the red pill rabbit hole that turns pain into permanent anger.
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You deserve better than that.
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What you need right now isn't someone to tell you it was all your fault. You also don't need someone to tell you she's evil and all women are the problem. You need someone who understands both the personal devastation you're feeling and the psychological dynamics at play. Someone who can help you avoid the mistakes that make everything worse.
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That's exactly what I'm here to help you do.
Individual Coaching
$250/hr
One-on-one sessions tailored to your specific situation. We'll work through the immediate crisis, develop coping strategies, and create a roadmap for moving forward.
Together we'll navigate the emotional turmoil, avoid common pitfalls, and help you make decisions from a place of clarity rather than desperation.
Group Support
$75/hr
Once you've stabilized, join a small group of men walking the same path. Share experiences, build accountability, and create lasting connections.
Limited to 5 members per group to ensure meaningful interaction and personalized attention.
Scholarship Note
Financial scholarships available for those who qualify. Don't let cost prevent you from getting the support you need.
Alex, Yakima WA
"When it first happened, I was devasted. I could not sleep. I could not eat. I didn't want to do anything, but Derrick met me where I was. He gave me hope. Now I look back and realize it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
Bryan, Seattle WA
"I remember feeling so embarrassed like I had done something wrong. I didn't want to tell anyone. After speaking with him I realized I had nothing to be ashamed of. Divorce is common, but support like this isn't."
Jesse, Edmonds WA
"We're actually celebrating our 6 month reconciliation. Derrick knows his stuff. It turns out that the long texts, showing her with gifts, and crying wasn't what I needed to do. I didn't believe what he said would work. It sounded rediculous but I promise you just follow his instructions."
My Story
My name is Derrick Hoard
I got married at 21 and divorced at 29.
In the beginning, it was everything you'd hope for - passionate, connected, effortless. I felt like I could tell her anything. But somewhere along the way, things shifted. Nothing I did seemed good enough. Every mistake became ammunition. She spoke to me in ways she'd never speak to anyone else.
But there were still good times. Enough to make me believe we'd figure it out.
Then one day, after moving across the country together, she told me she wanted a divorce.
I was devastated.
Here's what I wish someone had told me then: I went down every wrong path. I drank too much. I begged. I bargained. I wasted money on expensive retreats and programs that promised to "win her back."
And as a marriage therapist, the shame was crushing. If I couldn't keep my own marriage together, how could I help others?
I'd sit in sessions watching couples work through the same communication breakdowns we had, except their partners were still trying. Mine wasn't. That's when I realized the truth I'd been avoiding: sometimes one person makes up their mind, and nothing you do can change it.
But I also realized something else: many of the things I was doing in my desperation - the pleading, the grand gestures, the emotional reasoning - were actually pushing her further away and cementing her decision.
One day I wrote a letter to my future self. I promised to do whatever it took to build a life worth living - not to win her back, but to become whole again.
I read everything I could find. I worked with therapists who understood. I got in the best shape of my life. I rebuilt my practice. I found purpose beyond "make my partner happy."
I often wish what I'm offering now had existed when I needed it most. Not someone to tell me it was all my fault. Not someone to tell me she was evil. Just someone who understood - both personally and professionally - and could help me avoid the mistakes that make everything worse.
